1) All feelings are the byproduct of thought in the moment, and not outside events; external circumstances have no power over mind-set, mood, attitude or well-being. 2) They cannot control the thoughts which randomly arrive. 3) They already have within all they need...

I often see tweets and other messages with the hash tags of #blessed #Godisgood. I am all for blessings and acknowledging the goodness of God. However, these hash tags usually follow a message sharing a positive event or outcome in the person’s life such as a big win...

1) We all have thoughts. This is obvious. However, what isn’t so obvious is understanding how our moment-to-moment thinking creates and shapes our experiences and perceptions, throughout the day and every day. Remember, our experience of the same event changes...

Do the following strategies and advice sound familiar? Be positive. Be confident. Be aware of your body language. Be grateful. Don’t judge. Love more. Control what you can control. Focus. Never give up. Choose success. Find your passion. Serve others. Be kind to...

Several months ago, I decided to give up coffee. It was a simple decision; it just felt right, and I gave it up cold turkey. Here’s the “behind the scenes” story of that decision. From a moment of clarity and a high level of awareness, I made a choice to modify what I...

“Mom and Dad, we want to play ice hockey!” declared my two youngest boys after watching USA hockey star T.J. Oshie score several overtime goals during the 2014 Winter Olympics. My wife and I said in unison, “You don’t know how to skate.” They didn’t care—they wanted...

It was January 4th, and I was the starting point guard in one of the biggest games in the history of my college. Tiny Lafayette College in Easton, PA, was hosting Notre Dame and its legendary coach Digger Phelps.  Just days before tipoff, the Lafayette coaches pulled...

I was sitting in the drive-through line at Einstein Bagel early one Sunday morning when I suddenly remembered I had a frequent customer card. I opened my wallet, found the card, and quickly noticed the 12th bagel hole wasn’t punched. I counted the hole punches. There...

Parenting is tough, especially when our child is unhappy and all we want to do is fix the problem. That was the case on a recent ride home from lacrosse practice with my 11-year-old son, Brooks. Clearly, he was unsettled. I have been in enough car rides after sporting...

I tweeted the word picture on the left and felt proud to share my new understanding. Historically, I associated my internal angst to my circumstances and sought relief by working really, really hard trying to control life—to no avail. For decades fear dominated my...

I know what my clients have been through. I too have struggled with performance anxiety, worrying about what everyone thinks, the fear of failure, striving for perfectionism, wanting to be liked, excessive self-condemnation, and missing the joy of competition. Even...