1) We all have thoughts. This is obvious. However, what isn’t so obvious is understanding how our moment-to-moment thinking creates and shapes our experiences and perceptions, throughout the day and every day. Remember, our experience of the same event changes depending on our current thinking.
2) We cannot control our thoughts. Trying to control the uncontrollable only revs up our thinking and lowers our state of mind. Our thoughts are random, neutral, and always fluctuating. When my clients understand this truth, they feel as if a weight has been lifted from their shoulders. Thought manipulation and replacement is a needless waste of time.
3) Everyone has “bad,” “crazy,” and not so good thoughts. I hesitate to label or differentiate between “good” and “bad” thinking because such analysis just invites more thinking. The content of thought isn’t important; the important thing to understand is that we always have thought flowing through us. Having a “bad” thought doesn’t make you a bad person; it makes you a normal person with a wayward thought. No need to worry. Waging war on any thought is a losing proposition.
4) Thought comes first, then feelings—always. Seeing this will change your life. What you feel neis the result of your circumstances, never. Your feelings (emotions, internal world) are the result of your moment-to-moment thinking. Believing circumstances dictate state of mind and your thinking invites a victim mentality and sets the course for a maddening life.
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Thanks for reading.